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  1. ladyK
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  3. Sunday, June 09 2013, 12:30 PM
I recently met this guy and we immediately hit it off. Personalities so alike among several other things. Then recently certain actions had consequences that were in neither control but as a 3rd party influence, so to speak. Now he won't talk to me, says it's my fault the friendship ended and that he cared more than I knew. I'd like to know if he just needs to blow off some steam and things can eventually be resolved or if it is really over, because at the moment I am having a hard time letting go :(

Thanks in advance, K
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Peek-a-boo ladies, lol....I felt like somebody needed to talk to me on here so I signed on and low-and -behold! Ok, so lemme start with what I am feeling right now for Ms. Lady K., that man is not mad or upset with you. He is upset about his own actions, as in.... he is embarrassed. He acted in a fashion that was not typical of him and he is feeling shamed and humiliated about it. His comments about him caring "more than you know" refer to him trying to save face and shift blame on to you....typical tactics to use in any couple/relationship quarrel, but truth be told, he is not good at this because this type of behavior is uncharacteristic for him. He really does care deeply for you and does not want your view of him to change in a bad way.Now he is seeking refuge in his cave. He is taking some time to recollect himself and gather his thoughts and feelings in order establish his normal back. Let him do this. Send him that message that lets him know you care and that you are there for him and then step back. He is going to come around but on his terms. There is a third party involved in this but they are a negative source and there is a plume of negative energy surrounding them.Leave them be! There is truth to the "misery loves company" adage. They are extremely unsatisfied with some aspect of their lives and they'd like you he to share that feeling as well. Advance in something that interests you and brings you happiness. This will ward off the miserable and illustrate to your friend that you are not seething inside or humiliated. It will show that you have strength and confidence, which he finds extremely attractive. I hope that something I have said can help you! :)
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Hello Chris! (aka Mooch)!... I am so relieved to hear that you have sidelined the back peddler in your relationship. You have littles who really are children and need parents. You d not need or deserve a grown man, a father, acting like a child also! One of his issues is that he feels like he was treated like a child by people, and he never understood why. He was and is still not grasping that his behavior and actions led to these decisions. He is not understanding how he hurt you and why his actions hurt you. Until he comes to terms with how he affects other people and decides to change his ways, he is going to walk around like there is a huge chip on his shoulder. He is going to play the victim card. Victim of what,might you ask? Plain and simple, the "woe-is-me" and "nothing-good-happens-to-me" mentality. This is not your fault, nor did you contribute to it. You tried to get him to lose that way of thinking and instead of embracing it he became bitter. Somebody was trying to get him to become responsible and change! You did the right thing moving on with your life. It feels like you took some steps back, but you were brave to do it. Making it known that you need help of any kind and accepting it means you are brave and you are being truthful. Once you are settled you will forge a new future for yourself. It will seem bumpy. Nothing good comes easily anymore, but your hard work and determination will give you even more of reason to feel pride. This will attract more positive energy to you, and in time you will possess the confidence to form a stable, loving, equal partnership with somebody. Pandora left hope in the box! Find it and hold it close to you. I hope something I said can be seen as helpful!! :)
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Hey woman, it's cherokeechris/ now screen name ( Mooch ) Just from one woman to another and if I were in your shoes, my advice to you would only be, I wouldn't sit around and dwell rather or not he may or may not call or come around again, I would be more app to say, if it was that easy for him to blow you off that quick over something that may not be that major not knowing your ordeal or anything at the moment but, HE should be the one to worry rather or not he is more worthy of your time instead. The old saying is, you can't miss something unless ist's gone right? Well, in your case, if he doesn't come around or call, then there is the amswer and the truth will show it's face.
LOL I know what your thinking, it's never that simple like you hear and it sounds like what anybody would say and it's easier said then done right? And that's what most of anyone would tell you as advice because it's the closest to what most of us don't want to hear when we want deep down in side to wish it was the other answer like we wish it would be from our heart desires but, the truth no matter what will always speak louder then emotions and confusion and we all may not like hearing them as YOU taught me lol. But, everything happens for a reason and that is what I have learn't the most and because of that, it has made me stronger through out time and the adventure of not knowing SOMETIMES, is more important then having to know, why.....
As far as you liking this guy allot and not sure to wait for him, that answer only can lye in you because it depends on you rather or not how much you want to put your self on the line to let him hurt you or disapoint you or to choose to wait for someone that may put you last because of some silly issues that he didn't give you the time to work through or the benifit of the doubt first before making a decision.
I wish you luck on how ever it may turn out and hope that you get a reading that could help you better if I couldn't at all help you in any way.
But I am back on here now and glad to see you are still apart of the team. I hope that you can help me if I need it as well.
Hope you have a great day and wish you luck sweetie
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Hi cherokeechris,

Thanks for your response :) He actually came around * or * days later after blowing off some steam. We are both quite stubborn (like I said for an odd reason we are a lot alike).

Sadly, few months ago I started developing swimmers ears and it has costed me my psychic touch/insight, I don't feel in-tuned anymore like I used to be :( Not sure if it will fix itself in time or if it is just meant to be this way, although I do hope I will get it back in time.

How have you been though?

Take care, K
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Hi LadyK!

I know how you feel. You must feel like you are walking around blind without your ability. My own empathy went on the fritz after my great-grandparents died and only very recently came back. I feel that your ability will come back to you because it is so much a part of you. You must feel as if you are not you without it because I feel as if you are off balance as I am responding to your post. I don't know when it'll come back, but I'm positive it will.

I hope you feel better soon, LadyK!

Love and light,
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Thanks crorlc,

Yes I do feel completely out of balance, not sure if I lost it because I felt out of balance or if I feel out of balance because I lost it. Some old childhood traumas have been surfacing lately and been making me feel more off than usual. I feel in a bit of a rut trying to paddle above the surface emotionally and financially and while doing so, daily responsibilities seem to pile up and not get done in time :/ bad cycle I know :(

I really hope this will be over soon but I guess we all need to face our demons

Thanks croclc and i am glad you got your abilities back :)

K
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Lady K,

I am sorry to hear about you losing your touch but glad to hear about you and this new guy and that things are working out for you and wish you the best.
As far as me, I am lost and feel so out of place and just not sure what to do now.
I left the bad relationship to only move to I feel now, that is two steps back again and not sure where I need to be heading or not sure what to do now as far as me and my children and having to go back to being a singel parent again and having to live with my folks for now because of him and him not helping me at all nor is he seeing or helping me with his own daughter.
Everything got spun completly out of control and I don't even know who I am anymore because I am still trying to heal.
That is why I was trying to reach out to you guys to help me if possible. I wish stargazer was still around and not sure how to reach her. Do you know someone on here that can connect with me and give me a reading or that can tell me some lingering things that I am worried about and what I should be doing right now?
Thanks girl, wish you the best:)
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Hi LadyK!

I don't mind helping you out during this hard time. Not being able to connect to my ability left me completely vulnerable to my own demons, so to speak, and because of that I was completely off balance as well. I felt as though I had become blind suddenly. Just try to focus on something else for awhile, that helped me immensely when I felt really overwhelmed and disconnected from my reality and all of humanity. I feel as if you should get into meditation or reimmerse yourself into whatever relaxed you most. Relaxation can help. You're very welcome, LadyK.

Love and light,
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Hi girls :)

Thank you guys so much :D

Croclc, yes it is a very uncomfortable feeling to loose touch with ones ability, I am very happy for you that you managed to regain yours. I am sure your ability came from family since you mentioned your great grandparents passing. I am very sorry for your loss.

Star_Gazer, so happy to see you girl, been too long :D And thank you, I do have a feeling he really likes me. For some reason we connected immediately in ways I've not connected with anyone. I will work on getting rid of negative people, although I am unsure if it is just one person or more.

Mooch, ask and you receive ;) Just remember, change is difficult and it takes time to get life back on track :)
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Hope you are having a great day girl and just wanted to say hi and hope things are going well for you.
I am just trying to get a hold of star gazer to maybe be able to help me with my worries right now but other than that, I am just hanging in there lol:)
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Hi
I'm not a psychic though, so I might not fully understand how it feels. Hope you will get your insight back soon.

Cheers ;)
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YES! :D
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